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Days are not the way they were when he was alive.

Today one unsettling thought crossed my mind and I feel like sharing it with you guys. So the thing is yesterday I came across my bhabhi (my cousin’s wife) who is a widow as my Bhaiya passed away a few years ago, in a family function after a long time. I was dismayed seeing, how much she has transformed from an upbeat and happy person to a dejectedly silent person, wearing no makeup, accessories, bindi nothing but a simple plain saree. It caught my attention when my sisters were discussing that “ vo kitni change ho gyi hai, shant aur kam bolna” then my sister called her and asked ‘ how are you’ and she replied ‘ I am okay’ and then my sister said ‘ it’s okay to put bindi and light accessories, if you like’ and her reply is still clinging to my mind when she said that what if people misjudge her saying that her husband is dead and she is expressing no pain, being brazen as she is embellished with jewelleries, bindi and make up.
After that I felt, I m also a girl and I love bindi, jhumki, to get well dressed and yes, that's tough to leave those things what you like.
I am not getting this point why society wants that "vo ladki aise jiye jaise ki vo mar chuki hai " what I think society usko jinda mar rhi hai.
"Kabhi toh uska bhi mann karta hoga, well dress up hone ka, jewellery ka, bindi lgane ka, ghumne ka, bolne ka, Jaise vo phele Kiya krti thi " but she suppresses her feelings because log kya kahenge pati ke jaane ka Gham nahin hai usko...
Guys, I do understand that losing your loved ones is painful  but what is more disconcerting is society and people making it worse by inflicting pain through their blatant words on the wounds which are still unhealed, why people like her is afraid of ‘ log kya kahenge’. Why are society in which we live is not conditioned in a way where anyone can do anything they wish freely without worrying about other’s opinion.
This is request to the society please "agar jinda hai to jeene doh use, Jaise vo chahti hai, aise har roj mat maro" !
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  1. UnknownJanuary 20, 2021 at 7:30 AM

    Wonderful thought sadhna well said

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  2. UnknownJanuary 20, 2021 at 10:08 AM

    Has witnessed the same with Maa too but the society has been the same for so many years..but comforting gestures from ur loved ones can truly help the soul to heal..such a beautiful thought, many more to come..🙏👍

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    1. SadhnaJanuary 20, 2021 at 8:14 PM

      Thank you very much!

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    2. SadhnaJanuary 21, 2021 at 2:47 AM

      Yeah that's true comforting gestures from your loved ones can truly help the soul to heal ❤️

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  3. UnknownJanuary 20, 2021 at 9:54 PM

    Thank you for bringing this up!

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  4. UnknownJanuary 20, 2021 at 11:40 PM

    This piece of writing is truely overwhelming. I really liked how you manifested your thoughts into words. Keep writing!

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    1. SadhnaJanuary 21, 2021 at 2:44 AM

      Your kind words warmed my heart.. Thanks ❤️

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